KURVY Etiquette by Brei.

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At the age of 30, I think I can honestly say I'm pretty liberal with my thoughts, style, and assortment of activities and friends that i have.

Because I'm a stylist I'm always taking inventory of the outfits that i create. Many of my clients prefer to remain some what conservative. This is understandable because many of my clients now are working professionals and their environment doesn't cause for them to be too risky with their ensemble choice. However, i wonder how much of society's pressures have made women feel the need to present themselves a certain way because of the potential back lash. I thought about how this plays into my own life. By day I'm an educator who while stylish in the classroom i keep it pretty mild. Yes i have days where a pop of color or an a exposed key hole or a shorter length skirt may turn a head. And sometimes this carries into my weekend and styling. Yes, I'm versatile in my styling but it's only natural that our daily lives are reflected in our dress.
So this past weekend I decided to call upon my "girls". After attending an awesome wedding in west Palm beach Florida, i was definitely feeling some kind of way. Was it all the happiness, love, excitement, sexiness or quite possibly the uncountable glasses of Merlot. I that i needed to try something new. Be a little risky. Step outside my own box, because sometimes it isn't others who box us in, but our selves.

Now I'm not saying that taking risk in fashion is about showing skin nor is it all about being super sexy. But it is about embracing something that normally wouldn't be worn by you. Daily we deal with the pressures to look a certain way in order to maintain our life style. Due to treat of others and their reaction. But i say it's time to let their voices fall by the way side. Time to listen to self a little more. Maybe you only wear black because people say it's slimming, continue to wear the same hair style Due to complacency or excluding certain styles and dress cuts because some one else prefers it on you.

My personal box has been sex appeal. I love dressing, hell I'm doing it for a living now. Although may don a low cut shirt or somewhat skirt i tend to keep it pretty safe. This past weekend i decided let go of the out side voices and i even quieted my own. Slipped on a cute bra from lane Bryant, a cute black and white skirt paired with a matching fedora. And enjoyed every minute of my life out side of that box i put myself in.

THE SITUATION

Women are stylish, sexy, confident, nurturing, intelligent beast. What can't we do? That was a rhetorical question so don't bother to answer. Throughout my short twenty something years on this earth I've run into some pretty awesome women; doctors, professors, house wives, engineers, even private dancers. Each of these women were strong and accomplished in their own right. However,
while holding conversations with these lovely ladies about my intended plans for KEBB

, I heard the same insecurities reveal themselves. Each of these ladies no matter the waist size or education, all had similar hang ups about their bodies. I was a bit perplexed. You often hear of talk shows producing segments about beautiful accomplished women with very little self esteem. But I'd never actually spoken to a pretty girl that felt un-pretty.

One night while partying with the girls I overheard two young ladies chatting it up at the local watering hole. The conversation was very racy and controversial. You guessed it, hair. Natural hair vs weave. One young lady had a head full of beautiful, thick, black hair. Her friend, who I'm guessing wasn't a very close friend, was trying to convince the other to perm or install a weave unit. She was explaining how much more attractiveness her friend would exude if her hair was styled a particular way. The not so close friend began telling her how much men preferred women to look a certain way. By then I was livid and had to stop listening.

We are more than our hairstyles or the bodies we adorn with expensive trendy clothing everyday. And conversations like that show the work that is still needed in our "dainty" community. No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wearing your hair a certain way or a specific outfit to please a significant other. However, the thinking that evoked such a conversation is heard constant around the world. Daily women are taught to be pleasing to the eye. Yet, where are the dialogues teaching our young women to be and look pleasing to themselves.

KURVY ETIQUETTE'S MISSION

In 2014 I want to begin dialogues and construct a plan to get women on track with loving themselves completely, without the pressure of pleasing another. It's my vision that women of all sizes learn to love and enjoy the bodies they are in. Of course, there is nothing wrong with change. In fact change is constant and needed in order to evolve. Who we truly are, how we perceive ourselves and how we evolve are my concerns. Taking the appropriate measures to ensure your complete happiness and body-esteem are essential to your evolution. The steps needed in understanding your worth and being comfortable in your body are the building blocks to sexiness. And from the mouths of several men, there is nothing sexier than a confident woman. Through motivational segments, simple applications to achieve inner and external sex appeal, and a host of other easy to use empowerment tools, KEBB will inspire a movement for positive body consciousness and self worth.

Kurvy Brei

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